Tertia Albertyn is a published author, award-winning blogger and dedicated baby-maker, apart from being a seasoned infertility veteran and now mother to three kids.
In five years, nine IVFs and many losses it took to conceive her twins, she has seen and done it all in terms of fertility treatment. She writes a popular blog (www.tertia.org) which was rated the top blog in South Africa in 2007, 2008 and 2009.
She has also written a book ‘So Close: Infertile and Addicted to Hope’ based on her blog and chronicling her infertility journey.
Please tell us about yourself.
I am 44 years old and I run an egg donor and surrogacy program in South Africa (www.nurture.co.za).
When did you realize that you were having trouble conceiving? How did you feel? Did you share this with your family or friends?
I think I always had a sneaking suspicion that it might be a bit difficult for me to fall pregnant. However, I had no idea how hard it would be, or how much pain I would go through to get to my dream of having a child.
At first I thought all I needed was a bit of clomid to help me conceive. When that didn’t work, the realization sunk in that my journey would not be an easy one and I was devastated. And terrified.
I am a sharer so I shared it with everyone.
Overcoming the problem: What did you do to get pregnant? Did you follow a particular treatment?
I went straight to the best fertility expert I could find. I told him that I would do whatever it took to have a baby.
I started at the beginning (with all the tests and diagnostics) and I followed the usual path – clomid, then IUI, then IVF.
I eventually had my twins after my 9th IVF.
The results: How long did it take to conceive? Did you experience any side effects of the treatment?
I had twins on my 9th IVF.
I had three pregnancies losses prior to my twins – an ectopic, an early miscarriage and then a loss of twins, one died in utero at 21 weeks, the other born prematurely at 26 weeks and died 10 days after birth.
Side effects? apart from the depression, loss of friends, weight gain, slight insanity? None at all
How do you feel about infertility? How are you helping others overcome it?
I have shared my story with everyone – I have even written a book about it.
I am immensely proud of my determination to succeed, I am not ashamed of my infertility at all. I blog about it, write about it and now help others become parents.
I am very vocal about infertility. You should also check out my book So Close: Infertile and Addicted to Hope .
Advice for others: What should others trying to get pregnant do?
My advice is always to go to the best fertility specialist you can find – time is not your friend when it comes to TTC.
Unfortunately our eggs have an expiry date. Do not waste your time and money with doctors who do not specialize in fertility / infertility.